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After compiling a list of 23 Quotes Introverts Will Understand, it became clear that there are myths perpetuated about introverts and extroverts alike. While often more reserved than their counterparts, introverts cannot be summed up as simply shy. Similarly, extroverts are not always outgoing. Whether right-brained, left-brained, creative, analytical, a butcher, a baker, or a candlestick maker, introverts have an array of personalities. Here are some myths generally used to describe people with a tendency towards introversion:
- Introverts don’t like to talk.
Rather, introverts don’t like small talk. Talk about the weather or what you did last weekend and we may lose interest and start to look around the room out of sheer discomfort and boredom. It’s difficult for introverts to feign interest. Talk to us about something worthy of conversation. Introverts love to discuss ideas, philosophies, and things with depth. We tend to not enjoy conversation for the sake of conversation.
- Introverts don’t like parties.
Just like sometimes extroverts don’t feel like socializing in a crowd, sometimes introverts do. Carl Jung presented the idea that while extroverts gain energy from crowds, introverts spend energy socializing and need alone time to recharge. So while an introverted person may have a great time at a party, they will need time to themselves before and/or after to recharge.
- Introverts are always shy.
Social anxiety and introversion are two completely different things. Sophia Dembling, author of The Introvert’s Way: Living A Quiet Life In A Noisy World, told the Huffington Post, “The number-one misconception about introversion is that it’s about shyness. The best distinction I’ve heard comes from a neuroscientist who studies shyness. He said, ‘Shyness is a behavior — it’s being fearful in a social situation. Whereas introversion is a motivation. It’s how much you want and need to be in those interactions.’”
- Introverts are rude.
Because we don’t enjoy small talk, introverts can be perceived as rude or aloof in social situations. Often, that perception is simply the result of the introverted person being uncomfortable with forced social pleasantries.
- Introverts don’t like people.
Introverts draw their energy from a few close friends, while extroverts tend to gain energy from large groups of people and a multitude of friends. Because introverts aren’t close with a large number of people, the conclusion is sometimes drawn that they simply don’t like people. In reality, introverts value and are intensely loyal to those they deem friends.
- Introverts are loners.
While we value our alone time, introverts go out, have social gatherings, and have friends we like to spend time with. We’re not always alone, we just appreciate the time we have to ourselves. We find energy within ourselves and our personal hobbies. It’s not that we mind going out, it’s that we don’t find it necessary.
- Introverts can be fixed.
Introversion isn’t something that needs to be changed into extroversion. Introverts don’t need to fix themselves to fit into the social society that is the norm. In fact, introverts are a major part of society. Some important introverts include Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Rosa Parks, Alfred Hitchcock, JK Rowling, Meryl Streep, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Audrey Hepburn.