Ever since the late 1990s, seismologists have been aware that
Being an extrovert is like starring in a high-energy musical and being expected to have our switches in the “on” position. If you are an extrovert and people find you annoying, shallow, overbearing, or any other falsely perpetuated characteristic, here are 9 myths debunked about being an extrovert:
1. Extroverts are bad listeners
People think extroverts are overly talkative and never stop to listen, when in reality, they ask a lot of open-ended questions and they do a lot of paraphrasing to help a friend get through rough times. They like to think out loud in order to help process information or come to a conclusion.
2. Not all extroverts like public speaking
Even though they talk a lot and like meeting new people, this doesn’t mean extroverts like talking to a room full of strangers more than the next guy. Acting, speeches, meetings, etc. still give extroverts the jitters because, like everyone else, they face the same fears of messing up something very important.
3. Extroverts are happier than introverts
Just because extroverts tend to be bubblier or high-energy, it doesn’t mean they are happier people. Introverts and extroverts are equally happy, just in different ways. They feed on different kinds of activities to promote their well-being, and that’s OK!
4. Extroverts are shallow
Whaaaa!? People assume extroverts are shallow because they enjoy idle chit-chat, small talk, and meeting tons of new people. It’s wrongly assumed they don’t care about the deeper aspects of life and conversation and that they don’t care about important issues. On the contrary, extroverts talk to a lot of people to diversify their views. They are able to learn from listening and talking to more people.
5. Extroverts don’t have close friends, but a lot of acquaintances
Just because extroverts socialize with several different people and can hang out with someone different every day, doesn’t mean they don’t have those few close friends they confide in. By having a handful of close friends and tons of acquaintances, extroverts are guaranteed to have someone to hang out with if their good friends aren’t available for a Saturday night out.
6. Extroverts need to be the center of attention
Well, that’s presumptuous. Extroverts don’t need to be the center of attention, they just are by default. Because they like interacting with lots of people in stimulating environments, extroverts can let their personalities shine by being the outgoing, confident and sociable people they are.
7. Extroverts don’t want to be alone.
While being alone on a Saturday night with no plans suck big time, extroverts don’t have to be with people all the time. Sometimes it helps to take a break from too many social interactions since too much can bring unwanted repercussions like drama and confusion.
8. Extroverts have lots of energy
This isn’t a total myth. Extroverts do thrive on others’ energy and excitement, but they also are human and need sleep and sustenance like everyone else. They are capable of catching up on sleep and vegging out in front of the TV just as well as anyone.
9. Extroverts are not shy
Yes, they are!…Sometimes. When put into uncomfortable situations where they have little experience, they are likely to step back and observe their surroundings before asking those famous, open-ended questions in order to keep up with the topic at hand.